flirting
I’ve always been pretty openly disgusted with guys who have too many girl friends. It’s just that I don’t think a guy could possibly have good or solid intentions when they spend that much time with the opposite sex. It’s always been something that’s bothered me. I ‘ve always taken the girls side because, “Girls are the victims! They’re the ones being fooled by this “nice guy” façade…”. But maybe girls are in the wrong too. Whether or not you’re conscious that some guy is being a huge flirt or just a “nice guy”, you still make a choice to respond to him. If you’re responding to him in a way that continues to encourage him to keep behaving the way he is, that’s… wrong. It’s wrong to thrive on that kind of attention and reciprocate exactly what he’s doing, which is trying to lead you on and make you feel things that he knows he doesn’t for you. You try to tell yourself that what he’s doing / what you’re doing isn’t intentional, but then that raises the question of why? Why would you act that way towards someone you don’t have genuine feelings towards? If that’s how you just naturally are, you’re going to run into some problems when you’re in a real relationship because that is absolutely not a normal way to interact with people.
To put this in a religious context, flirting all seems like such a fun and innocent game, but when you get right down to it, it’s not. We belong to someone. We belong to a God. The root of flirting is all just selfish attention, and I think it’s safe to say that it’s a form of dishonoring God. As Christians, we talk at such length about “saving ourselves” for the one that is meant for us, but since when is dating around and sleeping around the only way to give pieces of your heart away? You give pieces of your heart away every time you feel like you need to prove yourself to others every time you seek validation from others; it’s a slap across God’s face, telling Him that who you are in Him isn’t enough.
